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Wednesday, March 16, 2005

A Matter Of Choice? Really??

Purv, the eternal optimist wrote a beautiful piece on making a choice. On how you decide what you wanna do. But she spoilt it for me by telling bout the creation of the poem. So now I am biased about it. And maybe, just maybe I don’t even like it.
I choose??!!??

Choices. Not really talking about the mauve one or the green one, whether to style my hair or not, clean da room today or wait for Seema...but the more bigger ones, the ones that make u look back and say, Im glad I chose that or during the less fortunate times regret da decision?

Ive always believed that no matter what choice you make, eventually you get what you are bound to get.
And no im not calling it Fate and shrugging off responsibility. It is about evolution. About being worthy of getting what ultimately you get. About grooming. To accept the inevitable, good or bad, is predestined. But relatively how much of both is what you choose. Because you get. You oh soo get what you deserve.

The Theory:
In Life. When you are grown up enough and your maa thinks so too, enough to let u make your own decision, there are always two choices. Not mandatory. But more often. Not the right or the wrong one. I don’t think there really is absolute right or a wrong. But two different choices which have life altering consequences. Or so it seems at that moment.

It is like a matrix I think. Or just a criss cross of paths, having the same end. Like da game where we choose the rite path for the rabbit to reach the carrot or something. Only here all the paths invariably lead to the carrot.

Choose ‘A’ and go on. To the next decision moment. Which is more often than not a result of chosing ‘A’. Choose ‘A’ again. Or whichever you choose. Then further, you choose ‘B’ and so in life you go on making choices, decisions, picking, preferring… creating more options and more alternatives merely by the choice you make in the previous situation.

But I think, had I chosen 'B'as my first decision, which again lead to two more choices, rather repercussions of my decision, the next set of choices again ‘A’ or ‘B’ leading to more picking and fretting eventually takes me, at some point which is the same as when I chose ‘A’ initially and went ahead.

So eventually, whatever way I choose, I in the end am getting precisely what I am suppose to get. I don’t believe in chitragupt.
So then is it fate all the way? Umm...I don’t know.
So am I saying we are not really responsible for what happens in our lives??

No. We are responsible for the next set of choices, for the responsibilities and the reactions. Ours and others. But all lead to something. And that something is I say predestined.

And how we take what is at the end of the journey is what our choices have shaped us up to be. Accepting, rebelling, regret, joy...

What we get is not altered, but how much we value it, definitely is.

16 Comments:

  • At March 16, 2005 8:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    LOL.i do blieve my feeling at this point of time is "i'm so proud of ya"....tho i have NO clue why since i am not ur mentor or anything!:p priorities.....either/or...hmmmm....and maybe if you are anything like me, the grass will ALWAYS be greener on the other side....maybe you'll NEVER say "i made the right decision". so maybe all thats really needed is grit to see ur decision thru....u know i think it's like this:Given Choice A Choice B and Choice C. Choice A can ONLY lead to x, Choice B ONLY to y and Choice C ONLY to z. Given what you really WANT is z, you can choose only Choice A.that much is determined. LOL-i think its like that tangled maze with the treasure at the end that we had to solve as kids???only one path will lead to the "treasure". so maybe the trick is not to worry abt choice A B or C but to figure out if you want x, y or z. ha!!!i needed to hear this myself as much as i wanted to tell you this.

    "The Wise Old Princess"

     
  • At March 16, 2005 9:15 PM, Blogger manuscrypts said…

    also have to keep 'non choices' in mind :)

     
  • At March 17, 2005 12:47 AM, Anonymous Man with no Name said…

    So U're saying that all roads will eventually lead to Rome? Its just a question of when? Isn't when a BIG question?

     
  • At March 17, 2005 1:15 AM, Blogger Grafxgurl said…

    ahhh. the inevitable discussion on choices.. it is so hard.. to choose ..but after we have made a decision.. i think the best part is that if we think we have made a mistake ...its always ok to go back and redecide....thats the power of choice and its in our hands.. so whatever path we choose to get the carrot so to speak.. we can always back track and retrace and do it in a different way.. and so we learn..just like we learn by everything else.

     
  • At March 17, 2005 2:02 AM, Blogger la devil said…

    wel ship mayb i m biased when i read this post .... but al the way i thought watevr u wrote kinda supported my poem.

    u r predestined to get what u want. but u need to choose the means.
    u can get gud marks by studying n u can also get gud marks by copyin.
    the choice u make, make u the person u r.

    all along the way u r making choices. mayb u r destined to choose A. so y fret, y regret, if it is destined. stick to ur decisions n be happy abt it. y decide notta do somthin n den say 'ohh i shudav done it'.

    let bygones be bygones
    'i choose to err, to be more wise'
    learn from ur decisions learn from ur mistakes.

    trust me i can go on n on n on....

     
  • At March 17, 2005 3:43 AM, Blogger The God Of Tall Things said…

    Shipa Aunty,

    Do you know there's a theory called Infinite Parallel Universes. It says at each point in space-time where a decision is to be made( at a quantum level ), the universe as such branches off into two parallel unconnected universes. What that basically means is that everything which can happen, does happen. "You" just live in one such universe. There are infinite Shipra's who live parallel lives in parallel universes. There is no choice, only it seems to you that you have made a choice, since you're in one of the universes which branched off at the choice.

    Scary

     
  • At March 17, 2005 4:09 AM, Anonymous divya said…

    hey you.......i agree that wat eventually has to happen will happen.....but the fact is the way u reach this place/point and the way u perceive it then is your choice......or rather depends on the choices u make.....all i can say is ,in the future when i look back at the choices i have made i dont have to regret any so badly that i wish i could change it.......u take care..luv,divs.

     
  • At March 17, 2005 4:36 AM, Blogger Elixir said…

    Princess, Manuscrypts, Grafxgurl, purv, divs : yeah all r jus variations to da theory, additions, revisions...
    its highly individualistic isnt it.

    ive been reading soo much bout choices,lately, in journals, blogs even...thought wud pen down my theory.

     
  • At March 17, 2005 4:46 AM, Blogger Elixir said…

    MwnN: when?? im talking about life cycle here...

    Anan: yeah i have heard something along those lines. but now u put it, does sound interesting. wud love 2 read up on it more.
    geeky guy :P

     
  • At March 17, 2005 5:34 AM, Anonymous Phal said…

    Hate choices. Just make me wonder what if i'd taken B instead of A...

     
  • At March 18, 2005 12:00 AM, Blogger livinghigh said…

    ummmm... am quite wrapped up in de cobweb u drew! ;-)
    PS: best wishes for FB's speedy recovery!

     
  • At March 18, 2005 3:33 AM, Blogger succubus said…

    i wouldnt have said this even a few months ago...today when i look back and allthat has happend to me..i am convinced int fate...but its more controlled than what you might think it to be. its about your own composition findind the light of day..its complicated and am not sure a comment box is enought to explain it all... but the fear of making a wrong decision is hardly a reason to not make a decision at all... on the contrary you need to make quick desicions because the out come has been decided already... its Very Confusing..and is one of those... each one to their own things...

    and to think ..i just want to say nice piece!!

     
  • At March 18, 2005 4:33 PM, Blogger . : A : . said…

    Maybe choices are just a way to make you feel that you are in control?

    ;-)

     
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